Though I don’t support gay marriage, I could really care less about it – for the most part. I consider heterosexual adultery and fornication a greater threat to the blessed union of male and female than any man & man or woman & woman relationship. I don’t have to go into anyone’s bedroom but my own. I have my own sins to repent for and salvation to work out. As long as a person is providing me a service or a co-worker is doing as they should, it is not my business who he or she is having sex with. Modern America has turned this holy sacrament of the church into a contract that could be officiated by a midget Elvis impersonator at a drive-thru “wedding chapel” in Las Vegas. American capitalism has turned what was a holy celebration into just another business opportunity. Marriage in America need only be emotionally based commerce with a civil certificate. So, it makes sense that homosexual couples should have the same right to marry as heterosexuals.
But, here is where I draw a line. I do not believe people of faith should be forced to provide services for such marriages. Many practicing Catholic, Orthodox, and Protestant Christians (as well as Jews, Muslims, and other people of other religions) believe whole heartedly that marriage should be between a man and a woman. Suing people who refuse to photograph, cater, host, officiate, and provide other services to a practice that is clearly sinful according to their religion is wrong.
A gay marriage is not the same as an interracial marriage. The New Testament and the Early Church Fathers never forbade a Slavic Christian to wed an Ethiopian Christian. Christians were to avoid being married to non-believers. In cases where one spouse was a Christian and the other was not, the Apostle Paul permitted such couples to remain intact if the non-believer tolerated the faith of the spouse. At no time did any jurisdiction of the Orthodox Church accept two men or two women to wed. Although America’s racist past corrupted the Catholic and Protestant churches to forbid people marrying outside of their race, Christians today (mostly) accept mixed race couples. Neither pope nor reformer ever considered the practice of homosexual marriage, much less that it would be equal to a heterosexual one.
Being gay is not the same thing as being a minority. If I were in a line with 99 gay black men and we were all wearing black suits and white ties, it would be nearly impossible to tell who the homosexual was. But, dress me like and line me up with 99 white men and try to find the African-American and see how difficult that is. So, by religion and sight, Christians are justified in refusing to participate in gay marriages. Furthermore, Jesus Himself defines marriage to be between one man and one woman as he quotes the Creation narrative in Genesis. The Apostle Paul declares that homosexuals, fornicators, adulterers, thieves, liars, and murders will not inherit the kingdom of heaven. We believe being gay is a sin. Gay marriage is therefore unthinkable for us. Therefore, we have a right not to provide services to such marriage ceremonies.
Rather than pick fights for punitive lawsuits, I believe the LGBT community should consider a truce with Christians on the practice of gay marriage. For those who reject it, we may as well accept the fact that such marriages will be the law of the land. We need not be bitter or hateful toward gays & lesbians as we refuse to offer them services for their ceremonies and receptions. Give them a list of similar quality caterers, photographers, venues, and officiates that will be glad to serve them. But, to the supporters of gay marriage, why not boycott those businesses and people who do not support these events? During the Civil Rights Movement, when we African-Americans simply spent our money where we were treated fairly, a lot of racist businesses fell by the wayside. By dragging Christians to court and winning outrageous lawsuits, you are only turning your opponents into martyrs as no one wants to be told by big business or (especially) big government what to do and how to live. You are only contributing to the already polarized social political atmosphere as you are being vengeful. That does not help your cause.
We Christians cannot win the fight against the rising tide of the acceptability of gay marriage. Nor will gays ever convince us to change our belief in what we know is the truth. Let us disagree without being disagreeable.